Ecosystems – How Business & Personal Successes Are Interlinked& How To Leverage Them
Today I just wanted to share something significantly important that has kind of shaped everything that we do in our human lives. Might be it in business or in personal life, or in relationships there is a deeper underlying question that usually we try to ask ourselves unconsciously again and again and, often times in times of desperation we ask ourselves one and only question and that is ‘’Why don’t we have what we really want?’’. Does that sound familiar? How often have you gone through life and your failures especially and trying to reach for what you want and finding yourself to be on the end of ‘’That didn’t work out.’’ Be it in a relationship or success in your business ventures.
Now there is only one word and the amount of times I have used that word I wish I had a penny every time I used that word. And that word, that I absolutely love because it carries the importance of what I’m about to share in the next few minutes and that will change your life, that word is ‘’ecosystems’’. You might say ‘’What does that mean, ecosystems? And what does that have to do with what why don’t really have what we really want in our lives?’’. Now think about this, I’m going to take 10,000 feet view for a second, just so I can explain the rest of how beautifully we as humans keep on creating and recreating experiences in our lives, especially the undesirable ones.
One of the biggest things we see in the planet that we are in is that we are in a closed system, right? That it has its balances built into place. We are having this huge conversation about climate change and when climate changes in one part of the world it kind of start affecting and has a follow up effect on everything else further down the road. So, if the climate changes drastically, a few degrees going to heat up the temperature everywhere, glaciers will start to melt and that will cause the water levels to raise everywhere, it’s going to affect the flora and the fauna, the algae and the ecosystems everywhere. So basically, an ecosystem in nothing but a closed looped system in which everything tries to maintain its own set of balance. And when anything tries to go out of balance, everything else kicks into place to bring the correction back in, right? Think of it as you heating and cooling system at home. When the temperatures in the house start to rise, the cooling systems kick in and try to maintain the even temperatures inside the house. So, that’s what an ecosystem primarily is about. You might say ‘’’ What does have anything to do with success in life?’’. It has everything to do with success in life. This is where I’m going to go a bit deep dive into this and you’re going to find it absolutely useful.
One of the key characteristic of being human in that we always have this deeper need to belong and to feel safe. This is why we are a colony of human beings, right? We always tend to associate ourselves in groups, be it groups of entrepreneurs, groups of friends, groups of family, church, communities, other religious institutions, political organisations, there are groups, groups, groups everywhere. So, there are two of these fundamental things that drive our behaviour. First one is the feeling of safety, and second is belonging. Now think about this for a second, the first group that you were ever born into was your own family. [draws] If this is you and these are your parents, they’re their parents and then so on and so forth. This is the first group you found yourself to be in. And imagine what would you do to be a part of this group and to feel safe in this space? Because without being a part of this first level of ecosystem that you are born into you will not survive. As a human being who has just been freshly born into this system. The first thing we unconsciously reach out is that we hang onto anything that’s available in our ecosystem. In many instances, in many families, the most pressing thing that is running in the system can be a set of challenges that are going on. I can be a set of poverty or financial loss or ill-health or there can be a lot of love as well. So, there is a combination of things in all our families that keeps running from generation, to generation, to generation. Now when a child shows up in a eco system like that the first thing they do is ‘’ How can I belong to this system?’’ energetically we do tune in to what’s available and if the choices on the menu for a family system are limited to ‘’ Hey it’s going to a life of struggle. Mom and dad have struggled. Grandparents have struggled. The only way I think I can belong in this system is to actually take on the energy of what it means to struggle.’’. This is precisely why often time when I work with executives, business owners, entrepreneurs, I see it repeatedly, generation after generation, that there is something that is unique to their culture, to their system. That there are trying to hold on to because that’s what has given them a sense of identity. If you want to know more about that you can look at one of my other videos where I talk about logical levels of change, where we talk about how identity translates into believes and results in your outer life.
So, think about this. You shop up in your family, you show up in your life with all these things backing up, you now sometimes we call it the baggage but sometimes we look at it as the support. Now think about this, let’s take the example of a lottery winner. If someone who has been sitting in a family where money has been a challenge and winning a lottery, a multi-million-dollar lottery, that immediately, absolutely, puts you out of your ecosystem now. Because this energy system now has never ever known what it means to be wealthy. You suddenly earning this huge win puts you clearly out of that and a part of you, deep down, does feel that there is a violation of safety and there is a violation of belonging here. This is precisely why so many lottery winners destroy everything that they have created just so they can come back to their original ecosystem. It’s like a fish out of water. Another way of saying it is in a family of thieves, the one who doesn’t steal feels guilty. So, every system that we are born into has its own conscience, has its own unspoken set of rules and we as human beings, this is precisely why, let say this is your ecosystem [draws] and this is you and this is the goal you want to achieve in life. Either we will do one of these two amazing things, and this is absolutely unconscious even though it’s absolutely real in your daily lives, get that. Ether we will start creating obstacles unconsciously, one after the other, so that when we try to move towards our goal [continues to draw] or the other thing that we do is we try to stretch our ecosystem enough so that it’s starts to bring the goal and us all the way, so our goal in included in our ecosystem and then, because the ecosystem has only one characteristic: remember to maintain the equilibrium, so the more you are stretching you ecosystem all the way towards your goals, the more the tension is pulling back. So, ether we do one thing: we create more obstacles; or we reach it & destroy it. And this is what we call sabotage or sabotage patterns. So, this is the only two reasons why we don’t reach what we really want. Because reaching for it, expanding ourselves for that absolutely violates our sense of belonging. So, in somebody else in our stream hasn’t had that experience, we will feel guilty.
Now there is a way out and this is precisely what we do. The first thing we look at is how to create a healthy dynamic between you and your ecosystem so that you can allow your ancestors, your parents, your grandparents, everyone, to be okay with the choices they’ve made and allowing you to be okay with the choices you are going to be making now. And also, to be able to include everything you want as a result in your ecosystem. So, this is precisely why when I start working with business owners who want to do seven figures, eight figures, a big part of my understanding goes into the fact what are the red flags in the system. How are they beautifully creating and sabotaging their system? Have they created something in their lives before that is of that scale or are they just going at it for the first time? Because I’m pretty sure I know that by the time they go from half a million to a million or five million or ten million, there is going to be a point internally in their system, in which that ecosystem feels a little big constraining. And moving them past those inflection points is one of the key things we do as part of human behavioural changers. So, if you are somebody who is in a position where you really want your business to excel great, you really want it to grow then please attention to what I have shared here. This is a big part of your internal programming and there are ways that are not working with your ecosystem, and adjusting it so as a business owner, as an executive, whatever be the next level you are reaching for, we can work together and co-create an amazing outcome.
I hope you found this useful so here is an exercise for you. Go out there and take 10 minutes out of your busy lives, write down on a piece of paper, who or what could be violated should you achieve the goals and the outcomes that you are after? You might say’’ Oh no one but maybe my uncle from somewhere, or maybe my neighbour my feel a little of that.’’ Now you can always pretty much bring it back to the to someone upstream directly in your system will have some objection. Because here’s the thing about ecosystems: If the result can be archived and there is no objection to it, you would already have it. Look at your daily life today, everything that you have right now is something that is naturally for you to have and that’s why you are having it. Which also includes the failures that are naturally sitting in your system. They are not desirable but somehow in the absence of anything else on the menu of life’s choices, that’s the best available choice. And that’s what your system has gone for. Have a look at that, figure out what is the most in way, why, who or where might be in violation should you achieve the goals you are after. And usually it comes out as safety and belonging.
And if this is something you want to absolutely explore with me, I would love to have a chat with you. So either reach out to me, put your comments in the section below or send me an email (firstname.lastname@example.org) and we can get started on bringing you, and expanding your ecosystem, to the next level of success. Thank you.